How often are you nice?
Seriously? How often do you greet a stranger on the street, how often do you hold a door for a woman, child, or elderly person, how often do you cover somebody that’s short a buck or two at the grocery store, how fucking often are you nice?
Or are you one of those people that never says a word or acknowledges anybody else’s existence, doesn’t want to be wherever and is bound and determined to make everybody else as miserable as you are?
Or do you fall in between? Help out if needed but pretty much antisocial otherwise?
I gotta tell you, the world would be a much nicer place if we were all kumbuya and shit, but I think most people fall into the ‘fuck you’ category and some fall into the ‘I’ll help if needed’ slot.
I probably fall somewhere in between being nice and being antisocial. If I’m in a familiar setting with familiar faces like the grocery store, I’m friendly as fuck. And truth be known, I try to help out when I can no matter where I am or what I’m doing.
If I’m uncomfortable or in an unfamiliar place, I treat others pretty much they way they treat me, but I think that’s common with most folks. Gotta get past that initial apprehension, you know? I very seldom find myself in a situation where I’m openly hostile, mostly because I don’t put myself in those situations anymore when I can help it. I don’t go to bars, I avoid crowds and I don’t go to trouble – if trouble wants me, it’ll come to me.
I’ve noticed that most of the fuck you crowd are younger. They are so self absorbed nowadays that they just don’t give a flying fuck about anybody else. They’re the ones doing 55 in the fast lane because they don’t give a fuck about other traffic, they’re the ones that are blasting rap crap at the intersections, they’re the ones that are rude to old folks.
The next step up, the antisocial crowd, seems to be mostly folks in the 30s and 40s on up. For the most part they’re somewhat considerate – when they don’t have their heads up their asses. I can’t say a lot about these folks. They try – sometimes, but mostly when other people are looking. But at least they’re not openly rude and disrespectful.
It seems that for the most part with a few exceptions, the folks that are the most civil are the older folks from their 50s on up. I was in the post office the other day mailing a package and there was a young guy in line that had one letter and needed one stamp. He flagged down a postal clerk and asked if they sold single stamps and before the clerk could say yes, 4 older women on either side of them started digging through their purses to give him one. They just saved him 10 minutes of wait time and 50 cents. A small gesture but very much appreciated and when I commented that that was very nice of them, they all just smiled and shrugged. Small but not insignificant – it made at least 6 people that I know of feel good.
Sadly enough, I don’t think the age difference in the groups is because they’ve mellowed any with age. I think it’s because of the way each generation was raised and that’s fucked up. If the younger folks treat the older ones like shit now, what’s it going to be like when they’re the old folks?
You reap what you sow.