One of my mother’s side’s cousins has a young daughter just scant years younger than my own children. This woman, whom I’ve known and been close to for most of my life, will not return emails, calls, or texts since President Trump’s election. Another cousin on the same side passed away last year. We weren’t close-close, but we talked from time to time… he and his wife loved-loved-loved the pictures of my kids that I would send and each time we talked he’d ask about them: how are they, what are they doing, do they like school, what subjects do they like, and so on.
I know, in talking to his son, that there was to be a memorial this past summer/fall – and he assured me that I would be invited. Haven’t heard a peep. In fact, I never hear from him unless I proactively reach out, and the emails or conversations always seem strained and artificial. I don’t hear from his sister at all despite multiple attempts to email over the last year-plus. Another maternal-side cousin had a child a couple of years ago; not even a “thank you” for my congratulations or any reply to my occasional attempt to communicate including asking where I could send a gift. Her brother, who is looking for work, is curt and spurns my attempts to help him network.
Same thing in my family, although it works both ways.
We moved here 3 years ago come April and I’ve yet to get a single letter, email or phone call from anybody in my family including my nieces and nephew, who my parents raised after my sister was killed back in ’97. They are firmly entrenched in their California Snowflakeness.
I was in contact with my nephew through FB messenger for a few months until he posted a video, then him and his buddies started talking shit about the ‘dumb fucking rednecks’ in it. The next day he shot me a message saying he was going to South Carolina to visit a friend and was thinking about swinging by here to visit. I told him not to bother, this place is fucking loaded with the dumb fucking rednecks he despised so much, then I unfriended him. Fuck that guy – from what I saw on his FB page he’s flirting with antifa anyways.
It oughta be real interesting when my mother dies and I drive back for her funeral.